Any relationship features tensions from time to time but if the following controlling behaviours happen repeatedly you should consider speaking to a counsellor to explore ways to turn your life around.   Is your partner, ex-partner, a family member or someone in your home:

  • Hitting you?
  • Swearing at you?
  • Forcing you to have sex or perform sexual acts against your will?
  • Threatening to harm or kill you, your children, family members or friends?
  • Putting you down by insulting and embarrassing you?
  • Judging, criticizing or bullying you?
  • Making you feel confused, angry and teary?
  • Causing you to feel sad, worthless, and dissatisfied?
  • Harassing, following and/or repeatedly intruding on your privacy?
  • Withholding finances and manipulating you with money?
  • Threatening to “out” you to others?
  • Do you wish that you could become more assertive?

If you have said yes to one or more of the above, you are being abused.   FOR ASSISTANCE, CALL THE OUT HELPLINE AT 0860 OUT OUT (0860 688 688), OR THE OFFICE AT 012 430 3272 or E-MAIL THE SOCIAL WORKER AT socialworker@out.org.za